Loving Each Other and Ourselves


Hannah Webb, Staff Writer

As I was speaking to a close friend of mine a few weeks ago, I noticed how nice her outfit looked and decided to voice my opinion to her, in hopes of perhaps brightening her day a bit.

“Hey, you look cute today,” I said with a smile. The response I expected from her, something along the lines of, “Thanks Hannah,” was far from what I received. The compliment was met with immediate denial and insistences of “No, no I look like trash today.”

After this first instance of rejection of a compliment, I’ve noticed more and more how we’re so reluctant to say nice things about ourselves and accept the positive things that others say about us. I realize this on a daily basis as I hear more people putting themselves down rather than lifting themselves up.

Personally, I have the same first instinct when I hear a compliment. I don’t believe the person saying it, or find the compliment itself to be completely untrue. Having this habit myself, I’m coming to the realization that the self-acceptance situation our society is in is completely ridiculous. Why are we promoting the existence of a world where we don’t choose to love ourselves for who we are?

In a society where some of our most popular expectations are to love, respect, and be kind to other people, we’re starting to forget how to do the same for ourselves. It’s becoming more popular to have negative opinions of ourselves than find the good qualities we have. We’re picking out all of the bad things about ourselves and emphasizing them, and denying the amazing abilities we as humans possess. We’re going as far as to believe we aren’t worthy of love.

It’s incredibly upsetting and disconcerting to me that we’re slowly losing the ability to see the good things about ourselves. There’s a variety of places from which this problem could have grown, such as the growing amount of negativity we see in our world daily, from the constant terror attacks we see to the rapidly shrinking amount of generally kind people.

Or it could be an issue of trust between us and other people. An inability to believe that anyone actually means the compliments they throw at us. With the amount of deceit that we witness on a daily basis, it’s not an unlikely cause.

Wherever the problem comes from, it’s a problem that needs to end.

It may be difficult at times, but we all need to start loving ourselves just as much as we love other people. As someone who struggles with self-love personally, I know how difficult it can be to appreciate yourself. But I believe that if each one of us decides to create a culture of love rather than hate, a culture of positivity rather than negativity, we can create a better world for everyone.

Now, I realize that this is an extremely optimistic goal to set, but even a single person making the decision to live a positive life helps the situation. So let’s start loving other people and ourselves, and spread a positive atmosphere to everyone.